Chicago, Illinois

Tomorrow evening I will be giving a keynote speech at the Willow Creek Church outside of Chicago. This huge and active congregation is holding an annual conference on small groups and their role in the congregation. It’s an exciting opportunity for me (and my research colleague Dr. Glenn Sparks will be joining me) because of the obvious synergy between the idea of cultivating small-group life with the message of our book Refrigerator Rights.

The essential message of our book is that the combination of constant moving with hours of attachment to screens - television, the Internet and other devices - has combined to create a typical American lifestyle that is detached, singular and separate. And such a lifestyle is directly associated with the problems we are facing with stress related disorders especially depression and anxiety. What is your lifestyle? Do you have the social support network you need to function?

Do you have Refrigerator Rights?

Tuesday, West Lafayette, Indiana

Every Presidential election rouses strong feelings. Over my lifetime there have been 15 elections (including the current contest) and I was old enough to be aware of 13 of them. From the squeaky close victory of the charismatic John Kennedy through the Nixon debacle, the surprising emergence and power of Ronald Reagan, the head spinning adventure of Bill Clinton and the mind boggling style of George Bush, I have witnessed and felt the passions of the country throughout it all.

And as intense as the Bush versus Gore controversy was in 2000, the present contest has more toxic fuel percolating in it than any I can remember. It has been well documented that this campaign - especially as we have seen in the coverage of the crowds following  John McCain - has become over heated in its venom toward Barack Obama. I understand the tactical decision to be aggressively critical of your opponent, but the pathological fervor being tapped among the deranged, the stupid and the easily provoked is unnerving to say the least. It is, as one critic noted is “playing with fire.”

At a time when the country is demoralized and frightened about our future, playing to the most base impulses of the worst of us is more than unseemly - it is dangerous. There are plenty of reasons to be uncertain about which candidate’s philosophy   and approach will be best for us, but appealing to the mob is the wrong way to go. Many of the idiots yelling out bile are unpatriotic and don’t deserve to have their voice heard.

SUNDAY, October 12, 2008
Lafayette, Indiana

Well, well, well…I boast about my diligent daily entries for two years and then disappear - without warning - for six weeks. Isn’t that special!?

I deserve to be thrashed (ah…metaphorically. Please don’t actually come and thrash me)

I am on the Bob & Tom Show tomorrow morning and I hope you can listen.

I will be talking about the third edition of the book Refrigerator Rights that was just released.

In any event, I will be picking up the ball again so - thanks for the toleration.

Monday, West Lafayette, Indiana

Without giving away my exact political preferences (although regular readers here may be able to tell - or think they can) mostly what I am is averse to rigidity and narrow ideologues. And so, as we are all aware, cretins of both stripes occupy the bleachers of both the Democrats and Republicans. And they all make me gag!

I find the bombast of Al Sharpton as odious as that of Sean Hannity. Neither of these morons demonstrate any flexible thinking. Everything about them and their ilk (Ann Coulter & Moveon.org) is about attacking anyone not fitting into their preconceived ideas — which is the depth of stupidity. And as a citizen, I have had enough of over exposed stupidity in the media and in government.

With all that said, I do recall listening once to the millionaire blowhard Rush Limbaugh and agreeing with his analysis about the difference between Republicans and Democrats. I’m paraphrasing, but he said in effect that Republicans are generally unified by some few core beliefs — small government, economic conservativism, etc..

In contrast, he asserts that the Democrats are a motley collection of mixed ideas and are really not joined collectively by any particular principles. And to a large degree, although I have certainly voted for Democratic candidates in the past, and will again this fall, I think this is an accurate assessment. And I believe that it accounts for the fact that only 2 Democrats have been elected president in the past 46 years.

The Democrats, quite frankly have become a tiring and irritating soap opera. Whether or not you are a supporter of Obama, it has certainly been disconcerting to watch Bill and Hillary Clinton engaged in the juvenile antics of rejected teenagers making problems for the Democratic initiative. The latest is Bill Clinton apparently complaining about the role he has been assigned at the convention. This is a guy I used to admire. And in less than one year he has so turned me off that I want him to just disappear. I for one believe that he was personally responsible for sabotaging his wife’s campaign with his stupid antics during the primaries. As much as I admire Obama, I believe that Hillary Clinton would have secured the nomination if it wasn’t for the negative presence of her idiot husband.

It will be interesting to watch the show this week. Let’s see if Democrats can come out of this and into the campaign behaving like something other than recent Democrats.

Thursday, Lafayette, Indiana

I am ashamed to confess that I m not very interested in the Olympics in China. Part of it I suppose is the consequence of the difference in time zones - I believe when it is prime time here it’s the next day in China. So in the early evening when I am interested in watching it seems that the events featured are women’s beach volleyball - which to me seems like an ESPN 2 feature that holds no interest for me. And don’t give me this hogwash that the appeal of beautiful young women athletes in bikinis is about the sport. Uh, not!

That said, two of the athletes that have broken through the maize of coverage are two young supermen. First, of course was the amazing Michael Phelps. As hoped before the games began, he outdid the legendary Mark Spitz with 8 gold medals and world records in the pool! Then there is the new world phenomenon Usain Bolt, the Jamaican rocket who blew away the competition in the sprints. Like Phelps, it is hard to imagine any individual athlete being so much more powerful than all the other world-class performers. But like other sports icons like Tiger Woods and Michael Jordan, these guys are made of different stuff.

Now here is the problem. All across the world, despite all evidence to the contrary, children with little aptitude will start spending hours swimming and running in order to become the next legend. And like 90% of the competitors on American idol, they would be well advised to spend their devotion and hours pursuing such dreams as education, reading and the arts. But call me a cynic, I just don’t see American parents losing their passion for finding ways for their beloved, unique children to achieve the American dream.

Monday, Providence, Rhode Island

Well, well, well!

Another politician goes down the sewer in a sex scandal. Joining the ranks of former President Bill Clinton, outed New Jersey Governor James McGreevy as well as disgraced New York Governor Eliot Spitzer, John Edwards, of all people joins the ranks of men who can’t keep it zipped. What an embarrassment!

I realize that many people are rightfully upset with what this reveals about his moral character. And Edwards deserves to be excoriated for that - especially in light of the image that he carefully managed to project as a candidate over many years. But what bothers me the most is the abject stupidity of men in my age group who become smitten with someone other than their spouse.

And of course, cliche as it is, it is all too frequently middle-aged men and women young enough to be their daughter. And although the press has not zeroed in on them, some of the other high character leaders in this category include former New York Mayor Rudy Gulliani and presidential candidate John McCain.

I am not such a prude as to object to people in different age categories falling in love. Although, as a therapist, it certainly makes me wonder what is going on with the sense of self, and the evident lack of moral discipline of these aging men. And, of course, there are the women in this equation who evidently are themselves smitten with Daddy.

What is especially troubling is the plight of the loyal spouses who have been rejected and left behind as their immature husbands “upgrade” to a new model. Everyone of these men left their spouse for a mate younger, more attractive and, in some cases wealthier. Well bully for them; it seems to be working out fine, doesn’t it?

And now John Edwards, another in a long line of “Mr. Clean” populist leaders, is being vilified for his “mistake” and “indiscretion.” It is all such a rerun!

I admire the citizens who have not succumbed to cynicism about the state of leadership in America. From the dumb to the debased, the individuals steering the ship of state don’t give us a lot of cause for optimism. What has happened to our glorious system, overrun by ambulance chasing lawyers, amoral, scandal chasing media scum and obscenely wealthy power brokers who function with the character of sociopaths? No wonder the cretins swe elect are the best we can do. No wonder our best and brightest would never think of subjecting themselves to the meat grinder of public service.

Oh, and did I mention Senator Larry Craig? Remember him at the Minneapolis airport men’s room?

"I am not gay! I have never been gay…"

Thursday, Providence, Rhode Island

Finally!! The other shoe dropped and Brett Favre is now with the New York Jets.

For weeks the legendary Packers Quarterback was in the middle of a soap opera of his own making. After twice retiring from the team and twice coming back to play, Favre gave the team fits about his plans for the future. And for several tense days he was hanging around the Packer’s training camp, doing what the other guys are doing: running sprints, practicing his throws. You know, the usual stuff of a preseason athlete.

However…

Obviously there is a difference in this case. Favre’s presence was, quite frankly, an embarrassment to the team and millions of sports fans everywhere. With the exception of some percentage of fanatic Brett fans in Green Bay, he became unwanted in Packer Land. As a result of his approach to seeking reinstatement, Favre has become a poster child for the self serving athletic superstar - putting self interest above all else - even at the expense of other people.

Favre has generally become persona non grata in the Green Bay organization. And football fans who formally had great admiration for him have now lost their good feeling about Favre. The reason for the animosity is that it was just a few months ago that Favre made a tearful and adamant announcement that he was retiring from football. The fans and the organization celebrated his great career and wished him good luck. And they did what you would expect - they moved on with plans for the future of their franchise.

But now Favre pulls a fast one and decides that he changed his mind. No matter the impact on the management, his replacement quarterback and the teammates - it’s about what is in his interest - a gloried Hall of Fame millionaire celebrity who has second thoughts about his certain decision.

I always admired Brett Favre. But as far as I am concerned, I am happy the Packers shipped him out. He deserves boos for his nonsense.

Wednesday, Indianapolis, Indiana

There are times when I have an innate confidence that science and technology has pretty much mapped out human reality. I have a sense of what is known, what is unknown and what might probably become known in the future. Once in a while, however, I do get disappointed with the expertise of experts. Yesterday provided a riveting example of the limitations of human knowledge.

A a team of scientists from Scotland, wandering around remote areas of Africa discovered a heretofore unknown community of gorillas. These primates, as most of us are aware, have been diminishing and even threatened with extinction. So it was pretty remarkable that these scientists stumbled upon an unknown gathering of these creatures.

Ah… but here’s the rub. This previously unknown guerrilla community numbered… are you ready?

125,000 Gorillas!

Are you kidding me? 125,000 creatures that had escaped the notice of primatologists until a few weeks ago. This represents the population of New Haven, Connecticut! It would be like finding out that, until this week, no one really knew of the existence of East Los Angeles, Cedar Rapids, Iowa or Cambridge, England!

How did this happen? I mean, I could understand this oversight were not for the invention of…say…helicopters and satellite photographs. 125,000 gorillas is more than the population of Waco, Texas and Flint, Michigan. Let’s face it, this is a fairly significant oversight by the entire community of zoologists and their colleagues in the animal sciences.

Now, of course, I’m delighted that they found these magnificent creatures. And it makes me wonder if, given the suspicion that primates (although they don’t speak to us in our native tongue) are nonetheless capable of some higher order thinking, exercised their intention to avoid humanity.

\And who could blame them? Their sibling creatures have been the victims of systematic eradication by human beings for decades. I can almost imagine the reaction of the first guerrilla to see these approaching scientists.

“Oh, that’s just great!”

Let’s face it, being “discovered” was probably not good news for these gorillas.

Tuesday, Indianapolis, Indiana

As we approach the grim anniversary of the Terrorist Attacks of September 11, 2001, I am still appalled every time I visit New York City that the glorious Twin Towers are gone. Sally and I were in the city that Fall, and I can remember looking at the smoldering mess from a spot near the entrance to the Lincoln Tunnel on the New Jersey side. It was mind boggling to say the least.

The World Trade Center was among my favorite places to visit in the city. When I was young I had occasion to go to the top of the Empire State Building and see the phenomenal view of Manhattan from up there. And of course no one could visit the Empire State Building without imagining King Kong perched on the top swatting at planes. But The World Trade Center was even more unique. Riding the elevator to the top, the view from the lower part of Manhattan was breathtaking. You could see all all the Burroughs of New York and way out into the harbor where for many generations ships entered New York City, carrying people and freight.

But there was one visit in particular that sticks out in my mind. I had just started my comedy career in the late 1970’s and had occasion to go to the top of the Twin Towers. In particular, I was mesmerized as I looked across from one tower to the other about the staggering (albeit ill advised) achievement of daredevil Philippe Petit, the French high wire act that did something unimaginable.

It was 34 years ago this week that Philippe Petit somehow managed to stretch a tight rope from one tower to the other and then walk across between them! He and his accomplices actually used a bow and arrow to fire fishing line from one tower to the other, and then used that to guide across the steel cable he would walk upon! Then, early in the morning he ventured out and crossed back and forth, walking on the wire, several times!

When a police officer responding to the report saw what Petit was doing, he described it as “spellbinding." Ah…you think!? He said that Petit was actually “dancing along the wire.” He was amazed that Petit was smiling and clearly fearless, on several occasions jumped completely off the cable and settled back down flawlessly. WOW!

To imagine this feat at that dizzying height is simply beyond comprehension. Of course, Petit was arrested shortly afterward but became an instant celebrity and legend in New York City.

When I think about the heinous act committed against us that destroyed those magnificent towers are trying to turn my mind’s attention to the joyous feet of Philippe Petit and his dance between the towers.

Monday, Indianapolis, Indiana

Dr. Will is on the nationally syndicated Bob & Tom Show today. He will be promoting the release of his latest book on television psychobabble:

Why We Watch: Killing the Gilligan Within

This book is a satire of a self help book that promises by properly watching television, you can "watch your way to wellness!"