Archive for October, 2008

Why We Watch: Waiting…Praying!

Tuesday, West Lafayette, Indiana

Everyone I know, with the exception of those who are simply tuned out, is holding their breath for the results of the election next week. Some of my friends and family are passionate Obama supporters and, I must admit that those I know who are Republicans and for McCain seem pretty demoralized. Whatever side they are on, the tension of waiting seems almost unbearable.

I have a suspicion, however, that once the election is decided, other than the most disappointed partisans, most Americans will breathe a sigh of relief and find a new energy to move forward. It’s the unknowing that is the hardest. And clearly, unless there’s some shocking development, it looks as if our next president will indeed be Barack Obama. And I for one believe that such a result will electrify the nation and the world about America.

For one thing, our friends and enemies will know that the electorate in America has had it with the direction of our country for the past eight years. It will also be a relief to me that the ugly, hate filled partisanship — making absurd allegations about character, religion and associations — has essentially been rejected. Only a small amount of uneducated, stupid fanatics will continue to grouse, fueled by their heroes on the radio and television (by the way, millionaires all!).I’m happy to listen to intelligent disputes about policy and the direction of our country. I’m always open to hearing varied opinions about how we should spend our money and raise our money. But if I hear one more mental midget try and claim that they are afraid we might elect someone who they’ve been told is essentially a terrorist, I think I’ll puke. As far as character is concerned I was far more alarmed about the story about how John McCain treated as disabled first wife, and his eyes for younger women than I was about Obama’s conversations with some disreputable characters.

The shame of it all to me, is that for almost all of his career I have been a big fan of John McCain. But like many others, I am so disillusioned with his unfettered appeal to an ideological base that is inflexibly rigid and obsessed with some few intractable issues at the expense of the larger concerns of the nation’s health. This is not the John McCain I was eager to vote for — the iconoclastic voice that put the country before party. He’s gone, and I’m now listening to a shrill old man who has aligned himself with some of the worst elements in the culture.

I have nothing against “Joe Sixpack” or any other working class person. I’m from a staunch, working-class blue-collar family from New York myself. But my “Joe Sixpack” family pressed upon me the value of education, learning and insight. In 2000 we elected someone who clearly does not value education, learning and insight (and who, by the way is from a multi-millionaire family with an Ivy League education!). Look where this has gotten us. Uneducated and unreflective people have the right to vote — this is what makes our country great. That doesn’t mean I want them running the country. You may admire Sarah Palin, but if the thought of her actually becoming the president of the United States doesn’t give you pause — you and I are on different planets. It’s time for the junior high school name calling campaigns to be over. It’s time we had adults step up to solve our mounting problems. If it’s Obama - he’s got my respect and loyalty. He will be my President. If somehow McCain rallies and prevails, he will be my President and I will stand up for him. But if that happens I just hope he quickly turns around and tells the worst of his base to now shut their drooling pie holes.

Why We Watch: The Future for Sarah Palin

Monday, West Lafayette, Indiana

 

Wow! I was amazed at the news reports today that Sarah Palin is so unhappy with the direction of the Republican campaign that she is considered by some a a rogue candidate! according to some reports Palin is following her own script, she is off the McCain reservation. She is speaking her mind and ignoring the orders of the campaign about what she is supposed to say. The reports indicate that she feels used and abused by the campaign that have allowed her to be portrayed as incompetent, not ready for prime time. And if this is true she is concerned - rightfully so - about ruining her future in politics should McCain go down in flames.

Of course the fly in the ointment here is that she seems to believe that the problem with her political future rests with the poorly managed image created by the media - as opposed, for instance by the possibility that she really is not competent enough to aspire to national office. It shows that people who are famous don’t always have an accurate perception of their actual gifts and capabilities. Should John McCain lose to Barack Obama, I simply cannot imagine that Sarah Palin is destined to rise to prominence and respect within her party. I simply cannot believe that she is the most able woman available to represent the philosophy and political point of view of the Republican party. God help them if this is true.

Personally I believe she is destined to have a popular talk show on Fox.

Why We Watch: Getting Small

Thursday, West Lafayette, Indiana

Well, another day, another stock market tanking. Already this morning were down several hundred points as the recession gets scarier. It is beginning to touch home with me with more than a few acquaintances losing their jobs. It’s all just overwhelming. I’m not sure many of us saw this coming. For so many years since the terrorist attacks of 9/11 most of us have been living in fear of another similar attack. I’m not sure any of us saw an economic calamity coming.

And for those of us minions who are not in power, about all we can do is vote with passion and, at a more practical level rethink how we are going to live our lives. Sally and I made a decision four years ago that we were going to significantly downsize our life. We sold our large home and moved to a smaller house in a modest neighborhood. We decided to focus on our lifestyle of friendships, neighbors and activities. And we are so grateful that we made this decision early. It was one of the best things we ever did to make a decision to “get small” with our lifestyle. It’s very liberating and it might be time to consider it for yourself. Blessings!

Willow Creek Church

Friday, Chicago, Illinois

For the past two days my colleague Dr. Glenn Sparks and I delivered a lecture and workshop on small groups to a conference at the amazing Willow Creek Community Church. This "mega church" is in the affluent northwest suburbs of Chicago and is truly an incredible place. Last night I performed a lecture and standup comedy to an audience of several thousand. And this evening it was broadcast to many thousands more around the country. It is always a blast as a performer to do my thing in front of a large, appreciative audience.

The gathering was for this popular, annual conference attended by several thousand from around the country. Like many large congregations Willow Creek is engaged in an ongoing effort to encourage those who attend their services to become active in small group experiences. Too often visitors to these churches remain worship spectators and never personally engage in relationships with the others all around them. So a zealous effort has emerged to encourage people to meet together and form lasting relationships with other members. To this end they have embraced the thesis and perspective of Refrigerator Rights as part of their initiative for encouraging congregations to promote the development of small groups.

Faith Communities & Creating Connections

Chicago, Illinois

Tomorrow evening I will be giving a keynote speech at the Willow Creek Church outside of Chicago. This huge and active congregation is holding an annual conference on small groups and their role in the congregation. It’s an exciting opportunity for me (and my research colleague Dr. Glenn Sparks will be joining me) because of the obvious synergy between the idea of cultivating small-group life with the message of our book Refrigerator Rights.

The essential message of our book is that the combination of constant moving with hours of attachment to screens - television, the Internet and other devices - has combined to create a typical American lifestyle that is detached, singular and separate. And such a lifestyle is directly associated with the problems we are facing with stress related disorders especially depression and anxiety. What is your lifestyle? Do you have the social support network you need to function?

Do you have Refrigerator Rights?

Why We Watch: Election Fervor

Tuesday, West Lafayette, Indiana

Every Presidential election rouses strong feelings. Over my lifetime there have been 15 elections (including the current contest) and I was old enough to be aware of 13 of them. From the squeaky close victory of the charismatic John Kennedy through the Nixon debacle, the surprising emergence and power of Ronald Reagan, the head spinning adventure of Bill Clinton and the mind boggling style of George Bush, I have witnessed and felt the passions of the country throughout it all.

And as intense as the Bush versus Gore controversy was in 2000, the present contest has more toxic fuel percolating in it than any I can remember. It has been well documented that this campaign - especially as we have seen in the coverage of the crowds following  John McCain - has become over heated in its venom toward Barack Obama. I understand the tactical decision to be aggressively critical of your opponent, but the pathological fervor being tapped among the deranged, the stupid and the easily provoked is unnerving to say the least. It is, as one critic noted is “playing with fire.”

At a time when the country is demoralized and frightened about our future, playing to the most base impulses of the worst of us is more than unseemly - it is dangerous. There are plenty of reasons to be uncertain about which candidate’s philosophy   and approach will be best for us, but appealing to the mob is the wrong way to go. Many of the idiots yelling out bile are unpatriotic and don’t deserve to have their voice heard.

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SLACKER

SUNDAY, October 12, 2008
Lafayette, Indiana

Well, well, well…I boast about my diligent daily entries for two years and then disappear - without warning - for six weeks. Isn’t that special!?

I deserve to be thrashed (ah…metaphorically. Please don’t actually come and thrash me)

I am on the Bob & Tom Show tomorrow morning and I hope you can listen.

I will be talking about the third edition of the book Refrigerator Rights that was just released.

In any event, I will be picking up the ball again so - thanks for the toleration.

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